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My prayers have changed. I feel the need to reflect on those changes.
I guess that's
pretty normal, for us to pray differently over time. I suppose that's
maybe an indication of maturity: as we grow up in the kingdom, our
prayers shift to reflect kingdom values more.
So I think to
myself, "How are my prayers changing?"
• The first way I
observe my prayers changing, and this one has been going on for a
while now, is that I find myself asking the question, "How shall
I pray?" or "What's on Father's heart for this [person or
situation]?" and I try to say what I hear my Father saying in my
prayers.
And I figure that's
good practice for hearing his heart in general. Practice is good.
Do I enjoy pain? Everyone begged me, so against my better judgment I went back to church…
Not two months and the line went dead. Radio silence from all church leaders. Scandalous times need transparency. I communicate. They don’t call or answer. So, I’ll say this here.
To my face, the pastor’s father confessed he’d been gossiping. He meant it as a threat. Nothing keeps him from asking me about the babble. So, why won’t he? Says he doesn’t want to talk about Monday, then talks about Monday. Says, “We don’t know you.” Got that right. He knows who knows me. So, why didn’t he ask them?—because he lectures everyone about “order”, but only wants control. He needs to “order” his mouth. (James 3:8)
A son as senior pastor, his father under him as associate pastor? Will the father control the church through his son? Ever heard the term “undue influence”? · · · →
Kids
do stuff. They discover. They play. They have chores to do.
I've
been watching some kids grow up over the years. Some of them have
been left to their own devices to find things to do. Some are given
toys and things to do (sports, enriching experiences, etc.). Some do
the stuff of life (much of which is called "chores") along
with the rest of the family. (For the sake of this conversation, I’m
assuming the kids are given the food & shelter they need.)
Most
get a mix of experiences growing up, but generally have more of one
kind of thing to do than others. Farm kids do more chores. City kids
maybe not as much.
Some
kids get tons of toys. Some kids "go play outside" –
sometimes in the woods & fields, sometimes in the streets and
alleys (and the influences of the others playing outside can be
pretty significant).
On the other hand, the kids who play inside with safe age-appropriate toys are generally cleaner and tidier than the kids who play outside in the dirt and stuff. That's probably part of the thinking here.
I've observed that the kids who also
do chores, and who are involved in the things the rest of the family
does, these kids seem to mature more quickly than kids who are
entertained more, with toys, with video games, with "age-appropriate
activities."
It's not an absolute, of course:
growing up is a complex thing, and a thousand factors and hundreds of
people come play into it. And I’ll bet you a shiny new nickel that
I’m not by any means the first person to notice such trends.
But
I’ve noticed that kids that are given responsibilities early on,
who are invited and expected to be part of all the things that the
family does (which include the work of being a family) seem to mature
more quickly, both physically and psychologically.
And
as I was reflecting on (my over-simplification of) this trend, it was
as if Father whispered, “Now consider that over here….” and he
drew my attention to the church and how we treat new believers.
Pretty
commonly, we put new believers into New Believers’ classes. I think
of those as “age-appropriate activities.” It really is good
information. Good things to learn.
And
of course, some new believers are left to fend for themselves, kind
of the equivalent of “Go play outside” in the spirit. They learn
who Father is to them and how to do stuff with Him maybe a little
more naturally, maybe a little more urgently.
But things are probably messier, substantially less tidy.
But
applying my observations about kids growing up to spiritual children
growing up, I’d expect that the new believers who, having been
provided with the nutrition and shelter they need, are involved in
the activities and responsibilities of a mature family of faith
(including bearing burdens, healing the sick, teaching others), the
more quickly they’ll mature.
Each of my children in turn has brought someone home to meet the family. In every case, they were wonderful people. In every case it was an interesting experience; I experienced something of a time warp.
You see, I’ve been praying for my kids since I first learned that we were pregnant. Part of that – me being the responsible dad and all – included praying for their future spouses.
So when my kids brought their intended home to meet the parents, several things happened. We celebrated, of course, we blessed the relationship, we continued developing our friendship with them, all the usual.
For
some time, I’ve been praying some pretty significant prayers about
somebody close to me.
There
were some changes that I thought would be healthy for him to make in
his life, but I very much did not feel the freedom to talk to him
about them.
So
I went over his head, and talked to his Father.
(It’s
probably appropriate to point out that part of my prayers were for
healthy changes in his life, but the larger portion were about
getting my will out of the way. I sometimes find it a challenge to
pray for people’s choices in a way that still respects their free
will for their lives ahead of my own will for their lives. And the
more I care for them, the bigger that obstacle is for me. Sigh.)
Last
week, my friend asked me to go for a walk with him, and as we
started, he said he had something to talk about, and he did not want
my advice or counsel. (I interpreted that as, “This is pretty
serious for him!”)
I became aware that yes, my prayers had some not-insignificant effect here (He never tells me how much), but this isn’t my victory. This is God’s victory that He s sharing (and working through) with His son, my friend. This is not about me.
I’m
still invited to pray for my friend’s victory, but I’m not
invited to take ownership of the change, to take responsibility for
his continued success.
I
learned an interesting lesson from my chickens some time ago, from
their pecking order. And then I realized something new about them
just this week. 🤔
And
they don’t spend as much of their days either maintaining power or looking for
ways to escape their community.
I’m
thinking there might be some lessons in this about being secure in
our Father’s affection for us. 🤔 What say you?
I have run into hundreds of Christians who maintain the view that if
something happens in their life, it must be God’s will. They
completely misquote Romans 8:28 as some sort of karma verse: if
something happens, it must be God’s will for them; if an event
occurs in their life, it must be God’s plan for them.
The verse says that
God will cause the events in my life to work together for the
ultimate goal of good, provided I love God and “are called
according to His purpose.” It does not say that every single event
is good (He seems to never comment on that), and the promise is
completely void for those who don’t love God or aren’t walking in
His calling. I’m bothered by the fact that the people most often
abusing this verse are not God’s people. “Bad things happened in
my life; it must be God’s fault, therefore I won’t love God.”
Grrrr.
This is such a
blatant abuse of scripture that I find myself fairly angry when I
hear people misrepresenting God’s word this way: exchanging what He
said for what they think He should have said. And it bothers me when
people assume that just because something happened (typically,
something icky), it must have been God’s plan for them.
Deliberately misrepresenting God’s heart is one of the best ways I
know of to make a mess out of life. It’s one of hell’s favorite
pastimes, accusing God.
Another thing that
makes a mess out of people’s lives is their own poor choices. It
seems that God was very serious when He gave us free will, though we
often confuse the consequences of our free will – our choices –
with God’s will. I know a man who committed several crimes and then
blamed God that he was caught and put in jail, and a teenage mother
that attributes her toddler to God’s will for her life rather than
her night of passion with an eager classmate.
The funny thing is,
God seems to take it all in stride. He accepts the blame for crud
that happens. I have two primary examples.
This was an interesting line of thinking. Let me know what you think of it.
I
was reflecting about prayer. I pray for a lot of things. But
I
don't see the changes, the effects of my prayers, as much as maybe I
would like.
Part
of that reason, no doubt, is because I pray for less-concrete
things,
and for people that are a long ways away. But for whatever reason, I
was thinking
about it, wishing
that I was seeing more results, at
least more visible
results, from my prayers.
And
since Jesus is my standard, I was thinking about him. He sure saw
visible
answers to his prayers in the stories the
Gospels told,
didn't he? I’m
not
trying to get big headed about it or something, but if Jesus gets to
see the answers to his prayers so comfortably so quickly so easily,
what's wrong with me wanting to see visible
answers to my prayers quickly, easily?
I’m really thankful that I don’t live under the Mosaic covenant
(the “Old Covenant”).
That
messed-up covenant was about a priesthood between people and God and
about obeying the rules (and getting punished if you didn’t obey
them). It wasn’t the covenant that God wanted, but it was the only
covenant that the people would accept, but that’s another story.
But
even if we’re not part of that covenant, we can learn a lot from
the stories that come from those days. We can learn a lot about the
weakness of human intentions, I suppose, but the part that I find
interesting is when God’s heart is revealed, even through that
inferior covenant.
For
example, this prophetic word about prophetic words,
This
rather talks about both the weakness of human intention and the
tender goodness of the heart of God. I came across this passage, and
I realized that there are lessons from this Old Covenant encounter
that apply even to us who live in the New Covenant. Here are some
lessons that stood out to me.
•
One of the legitimate roles of the prophet is to strengthen the
people of God for days of difficulty and opposition. (He uses
vocabulary of repairing breaches [holes] in the defensive walls of
the city, a pretty common metaphor.)
In
New Covenant vocabulary, the prophetic gifts are for “edification
and exhortation and comfort;” this is not news to us.
•
In those days, there were “foolish prophets” who speak for God,
even when God has not given them a message. He says they prophesy
from their own spirits, and haven’t actually seen a vision from
God.
I
have great empathy for itinerant prophets these days. There’s real
pressure on them to always have something to say, always have a fresh
revelation, always be in the social media headlines, so that they’ll
always have an invitation to minister, and therefore receive a
paycheck. The desire to feed your family and pay the rent is pretty
powerful, and it probably ought to be.
This
is one of the reasons I believe that discernment is absolutely
critical these days. God calls out this prophesying from their own
spirit pretty regularly in the Old Testament; I believe it happens in
our days as well. Which means we need to discern the prophetic words
that are actually from God from the prophetic words that come from
the prophet’s own spirit. (One tool from this passage to help judge
a word: does it “repair the breaches in the walls”?)
•
It’s probably worth pointing out that even if a prophetic word
comes from the prophet’s own spirit instead of the Spirit of God,
that doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s evil or demonic. If they
have a good spirit, then words from their spirit won’t be bad. They
may even comfort and encourage, but they won’t carry the power of
God; they’re just words, empty words, even if they’re good words.
There
were in those days – and there are in our days – declarations
made that were not from God, but people expect God to fulfill the
empty words. Both the prophet and the hearer are deceived into
thinking that God is going to accomplish what was essentially wishful
thinking or good intentions behind the “thus says the Lord”
declarations. But he is not obligated by promises that come from
anyone other than himself.
•
I confess that I find it a little uncomfortable that prophets can
prophesy from their spirit well enough that they can’t recognize
when God is speaking and when it’s just their own good intentions.
But I see it happen all over the place.
And
if the hearer has not done the work of discerning the prophetic word
properly, they may attach their heart to words that were merely
spoken from wishful thinking or good intentions, and as a result, be
disappointed, even devastated when that which was promised in the
flesh does not come to pass. I’ve known people who have walked away
from God because of this stumbling block.
This
is where Jesus’ warning seems to apply so clearly: “Jesus said
to his disciples: "Things that cause people to stumble are bound
to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come. It would be better
for them to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their
neck than to cause one of these little ones to stumble.” [Luke
17:1-2] That sounds like Jesus is pretty serious about this.
And
this is the point in this article where I sometimes feel the need to
come up with a snappy conclusion to what I’m writing, something
about guarding our hearts, something about hearing Father’s voice
for ourselves, something about purity of motives. But I’m cautious
about my own good intentions here.
Instead,
I’m going suggest a re-reading of the passage that started this
whole thing, and taking a moment to open your heart and visit with
God about it:
“This
is what the Sovereign LORD says: Woe to the foolish prophets who
follow their own spirit and have seen nothing! ... You have not gone
up to the breaches in the wall to repair it for the people of Israel
so that it will stand firm in the battle on the day of the LORD.
Their visions are false and their divinations a lie. Even though the
LORD has not sent them, they say, "The LORD declares," and
expect him to fulfill their words.” [Ezekiel 13]