Separation and polarity may be the only path forward. That's not the most preferable way, but it's all that's left when people can't reconcile their differences. God hates divorce, which doesn't mean He disallows it, but that He hates whatever cause makes it necessary.
As our differences mature, don't think the battles are lost; they're only growing up, you along with the other. Your focus must be on choosing the right side, which always includes choosing the path of learning from the word rather than the rod and long-term, sustainable victory. Gauge your path carefully; every loser thinks he's right.