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Ignore

Being in the presence of toxic people is intoxicating. They make you crazy! Constant disrespect, verbal vomit, aggravation at every turn—you don't want others to think of those things when they think of you. Make sure you don't slip down that slow slope.

Sometimes we have to put up with others. You could draw a line in the sand, like God did with coastlines, saying, "Here and no farther." But, making lemonade always earns kudos.

Survive toxic people by being in touch with higher power. Think on the God who drew coastlines, then you can ignore the beating waves.

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Cut Anchor and Sail On

When you're stuck in life, you're probably stuck on something. Maybe you're hanging onto it or maybe you're letting it hang onto you. We don't like to let go of the anchors we drag, but we have to if we don't want to drag anchor.

One anchor is "offense"—someone does something no one should be allowed to do! Just remember that you don't need to be offended by an offense for the rest of your life. If you drag someone else's offense with you, you'll sail it to others. Sell anchors in port. Anchor shipping makes an unprofitable business.

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Level Up

When you're down and out, looking up at a mountain in your way, sometimes the only way up is to level up.

Up the ante, raise prices, increase the fees to play in your game, put yourself up on the next level in quality and cost. You've got to be worth it. You can't overcharge for bad apples and not make someone want to upset your apple cart. But, as long as you aren't selling complete junk—and as long as you are indeed in demand—the only way forward might be up.

That's hard to hear if you're broke.

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Questions for What They Are

Some opinions can only be understood in the context of a broader worldview. Maybe the reason someone wants gun restriction laws isn't so much about guns in particular, but because the person thinks like a Democrat in general. Same with someone wanting to restrict abortion thinking like Republican. When that happens, we'll get a lot more done—and keep a lot more friendships alive—by discussing party politics at large and the underlying opinions that persuade people one way or the other.

So, we really need a face-to-face to get much done. Underlying questions can't be discussed through the mail.

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Gift of the Present

The purpose of the present never presents itself in the present. What we do now—what we go through, what we experience, what we witness, what avenues we pave—always achieves some purpose that we can't see in the here and now. So, never judge the present according to the present. If you do, you will always be confused and frustrated.

One of the best ways through the quagmire of the present is to look for what you learn—how you grow as a person. Learning things, witnessing the unthinkable, gaining skills, going places—these prepare us. That's worthwhile enough.

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Time as it Seems

Things don't take as short a time as they might seem. We plan, project, expect, then the calendar disappoints. You might look at a project that should take a week, then it takes seven.

The scary part is how much that scares us. When we are five months behind a project, it seems the sky is falling. But, is it? When your house takes longer than expected to build, do the seasons stop?

Don't get worked-up about how much longer projects take. Some projects take less time than expected. It doesn't always even out, but life isn't surprised; we are.

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Two-Way Interviews

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Careful who you judge. It might be you who is actually on trial. One sure way to learn about others is to let others think they stand above you, then see how they respond. The person you disagree with just might be doing just that—letting you think you're in charge and watching your reaction.

That might not be the case. You might actually be the decision-maker you think you are, until you're not. Even if you hold the power seat today, tomorrow the tables could turn, then your entire history coughs up testimony about who you were all along.

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Say Yes

Yes. It's just that simple. Life can seem confusing when we fear this word. Maybe you don't know your path in your career, business, education, or in relationships. That's not to say we should say yes to every stupid request ever made of us. But, when someone asks something that is safe and within our power—no matter how uncomfortable—no matter how unworthy we feel—say yes.

Saying yes is an act of friendship. When you need something and someone can help, the one who helps likely becomes a good friend. Be that new friend. Be a living yes.

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Priorities Guide Change

If insanity is repeated, failed methods, priorities are the cure or the cause. Everything has a motive of some sort, curiosity or boredom if nothing else. We do things for reasons. We do things over and over for reasons. When we fail from the same method over and over, it is for a reason—a dark motive—some priority we aren't honest about, with others or even ourselves.

What are your priorities? Do you know? One good look at the path behind shows it all. Once we start to lose something else important, we start to reevaluate what we want.

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Philosophy vs Growth

Every story—every comic book, movie, novel—has a point the author wants to make. Authors write with more in mind than just a plot. Authors want to give readers a larger idea that can only be told in the form of a story.

Some call this larger idea "philosophy". Plato's Cave was a philosophy embedded into a story. Jesus's parables were Judaeo-Christian values embedded into stories. But, these neither strengthen nor bolster everyday life skill. We need philosophy and morals, but we also need cold, hard street smarts, people smarts, and marketable skills. Each is different; keep yourself balanced.

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Resolve or Right

Conflict demands a choice. The incredibly boring, typical, anything-but-special choice is to fight for domination—to prove others wrong, then make them remember by rubbing their faces in it. It's all about the principle, after all. The other choice is to help, lift, educate, inform, explain, and even do the heavy lifting yourself—a choice which isn't so popular.

The difference can be found in results. Societies don't improve where people only win fights. Sometimes we need to ruffle feathers, but what about after that? Once you've stirred the pot, will you dump on your dinner guests or serve them?

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Grow When Rejected

It's one of the hardest things to hear: "You keep losing because you do bad work."

We work so hard, but it still doesn't cut it. We learn, we improve, but no one accepts our work. God told Cain, "If you do good work, it will be accepted," but He never promised that it would be accepted by everyone. "If not," He continued, "sin is right their waiting for you and you must master it."

Few things make us angrier than our hard work being rejected. If you can keep improving without complaining, you'll have been approved by hard times.

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Standing Against Bullies

Bullies are scary. It's even scarier to stand to them. But, whatever tantrum a bully throws at those who stand up is a mere fraction of what bullies do to everyone when left unchecked. It is far scarier to think about destruction trailing a bully who daily and hourly receives the message from the world that anything goes.

The world needs truth. Truth is the one thing bullies fear most, and they return the most wrath for it. It's hard to know when to stand up to a bully and when to be diplomatic. So, just stand up for truth.

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Results Count

Results move the powerful segment of society that responds powerfully with their own results. When they see a thing happening, they make something else happen in turn. Results is their language.

If you deliver bad results, the result-speaking population will get frustrated with you, then make a change. That change will have results that you might not like. But, you won't be able to argue with results because results don't talk back; they result back.

Living by results is a value. Once someone stops arguing and starts "resulting", that someone has joined the ranks of the "resulting". Results overpower all.

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