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First Overcome

The unwritten implication about blaming people for your problems is that you have problems. Everyone does, but we shouldn’t publicize problems until they are overcome. That’s different from exposing a public need or coaching willing athletes, but don’t think you’re a coach when you’re not.

The dirty little secret about problems is that the world won’t listen to our warnings while we still suffer from the world’s problems. We must overcome problems from the world, only after inform the world about its need to grow up. That’s a loss for the world, but it’s a win for you. Overcome first.  · · · →

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Step In

Strength is never bestowed, it must be attained by ourselves. You will never get yourself to anyplace you want by blaming or excusing. Your results belong only to you and they can be earned only by you.

Moving along isn’t easy. When we get stronger and better, we enter a new territory. If we’re always improving, we’re always in new territory. Comfort doesn’t find a place there. A life of ongoing growth means a life lived outside the comfort zone—always.

So, don’t just stand there when you see something you want. Gauge your opportunity, then move in full tilt.  · · · →

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Straight Path to the Real Finish

Decisions are simple if we bear in mind two things: Be direct, be real.

It’s no good taking detours without need when you’re in a hurry. The problem is that we like to justify detours, without considering their costs. If we don’t arrive on time, whatever we’re doing won’t get done. Equally, it’s no good going somewhere you don’t want to go. Taking the direct rout over a cliff won’t take you to anyplace other than regret. The problem is that we like to justify being in a hurry, without considering the risk of failure.

Win. Be real. Be direct.  · · · →

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Thank the Pain

If life kicks hard, it seems unfair. But, no one grows without pain of some sort, sooner or later. It’s never fair, then again it’s always fair. The way pain happens is never right, but the fact that it happens gives us the blessing of growth. So, the unfairness of hardship is the only way life can treat us fairly.

Are you ungrateful for the blessings in your life? People who can’t thank helpful pain can’t be thankful for anything. They will find a way to complain even about the nicest and best benevolences life has to offer. Be thankful.  · · · →

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Insanity Sneaks

It gets under our skin, insanity. When the attacks come, they start manipulative, shaming, pushing guilt, placing blame, and making you think you’re the crazy one who needs help. It only grow bigger and bigger, especially when you go along with it. Insanity, after all, is a distorted perspective of the world. If you let your crazy abusers think they are stronger than they are, their craziness will grow, along with their unfettered willingness to throw a dangerous fit when finally confronted.

The best way out is to call it out, the sooner the better. Call crazy what it is.  · · · →

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Crazy Moves On

Crazy is a monster of the mind that drives us to harm. It usually drives someone to harm others, but on occasion it has been known to only harm oneself. Still, crazy drives us to harm.

As it harms, it zooms in on one victim—obsessing over only one person or group, usually under the self-delusion that it can somehow help. And, to everyone else, the victim is a liar.

When crazy comes after you, everyone will tell you you’re wrong, you need counseling, or you see ghosts. Take heed; it’s only a matter of time before crazy moves on.  · · · →

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Patience or Bully

Patience requires that we don’t do injury beyond the villain’s. So, someone did it to you. It was wrong. You’re right. They deserve something. You deserve something else to have happened. But, if you respond at a higher level of cruelty, you become the new villain.

This is a constraint that both requires and cultivates patience. Consider the kung fu master who doesn’t need to land a single strike in order to win a fight. He’s so good that he dodges every attack, wears out his assailant to a point of error, then declares victory with a single, gentle hold.  · · · →

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Keep up on Health

It seems second-priority and a healthy body only makes for a healthy corpse in the end. We can’t take any of it with us, not even the body we trudge around in for nearly a century. But, health has its advantages.

A healthy body makes for a healthy mind, which makes for healthy decisions and quality work. Whether in art, labor, or study, the same blood flows through your feet as that three-bound inspiration blob between your ears.

Don’t make it about vanity nor indulgence. Make a habit of pushing past thresholds of pain. Health wants a challenge to overcome.  · · · →

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From the Start

The turning point comes when we cease worrying. It’s never easy. Sometimes we must worry ourselves out in order to stop the worry. Sometimes we need enough worry time proven wasteful before we decide it’s just a waste. However you get there, once you cut with the worry, everything starts to turn around.

Turning for the better doesn’t mean the battle’s over. It might not even start. But, many battles are decided before they start—especially if the worry stops before the worried battle actually starts. And, there’s the thing: We often worry because we expect results from the start.  · · · →

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Troubles Kill Trouble

As one pushes forward, troubles come up. Incompetence, careless mistakes, no-brainers—things like these get in the way for most people and are all to common in most organizations. When you face an uphill battle, scaling someone else’s pile of disaster, there’s one easy, win-all solution: Overcome by being evermore awesome.

Whatever disadvantage you were handed by someone else being a fool won’t affect you as long as you rise and grow. Work, prepare, produce. Those who manufacture problems for others will end up keeping them for themselves if you don’t buy. Then, they’re at the disadvantage, and you’re not.  · · · →

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Ready Chance

Success is a convergence of preparedness and opportunity. No one makes it without some kind of luck, though all luck is created on some level—both the good and the bad. Life sends us unfair hardships which remain real as much as they require us to rise above them.

Once the last chip falls and all cards are on the table, success goes to those who worked hard, worked smart, and worked “until”. It won’t help to work only five years or only fifty years or until you’re tired. We must prepare and stay prepared until opportunity makes its move.  · · · →

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Enjoy the Perilous Journey

Life’s race isn’t against time, but against our own mud. We each have incredible, unlocked potential, usually held captive by lingering vices and bad habits we like too much to kick. The only way through a murky mess is at proper speed. When racing in mud, if you go too fast, you lose control.

Life’s mud can be dangerous at times, but the key is enjoying the perfect pace, no matter the looming perils. Perfection doesn’t feel fast, but it’s the fastest mud allows. Enjoy it. Clip along at the speed of mud and closing enemies will wipe themselves out.  · · · →

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Fingers and Trust and Toes

When a baby is born, a mother’s first instinct is to hold and care. She held the baby in her tummy nine months, now she wants to hold the baby in her arms.

A father’s instinct is practical. Happy babies need fingers and toes, arms and legs. So, he counts them.

A mother knows the need for love and contact. She can have confidence that the practical needs are met because a human father’s attention to toes reflects our Creator’s care through nine months of detailed labor. While the mother holds, the father counts. Are the two opposed or complementary?  · · · →

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Life in the Garden

God created Eden because He created Mankind for gardens. We know our human need for gardens was already in His mind because He is the God Who Prepares. He prepared Eden, then He made us and placed us there.

Since our own “better idea” got us expelled, we’ve been trying to get back into the garden. That’s what every religion wants. Rather than trying to outsmart God as our means to return to the garden, we could just follow His plan and live in house-gardens. Sustainable food from home could bring world peace because everyone would already be in gardens.  · · · →

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