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Was It the Dog or the Jellyfish?

Was It the Dog or the Jellyfish? (mp3)

After three years in Asia, this was the first beached jellyfish I’d seen. But before I explain how I rescued a beached jellyfish in Taiwan, allow me to tell of the cockroach who saved my life.

Normally, when a country-born Michiganian sees a cockroach on its back, the first inclination is to step on it. Call me cruel, but I’d prefer the gratification of knowing it just sat there on its back. Yes, I pulled wings off a fly when I was young. But that’s because he bit me when I never did anything to him! All that’s in the past, now, and here I was looking at an Asian cockroach doing the cockroach dance.

When you think of it, cockroaches are quire useful creatures. Imagine how many corners would be so much dirtier if they didn’t clean up! But, despite the creature’s usefulness, all I could think of were the words from that song by Darlene Zach, “Your eye is on the sparrow…” See, I want to be just like my Daddy, and if His eye is on the sparrow—and I never was much of a sparrow fan—then I could at least help a “backed-up” cockroach.

I gave the most gentle nudge of my toe and… FLOP. There he was, dismayed, as any Asian cockroach who gets bumped, but firmly standing on all six of his… well, I think they’re “legs” anyway.

As I continued my evening trek to the corner 7-Eleven, I had a warm feeling inside. Maybe it was the new friend I’d made, who would likely be squashed by a car the next morning or become entertainment for a curious dog… Then again, it seemed he had favor. I’d been walking by at the right moment for him, after all. Did we share guardian angels? Perhaps he’d live to a ripe, old, cockroach age.

With 7-Eleven stock in hand, and returning to the front gate of my apartment, I realized that I’d lost my keys. There weren’t many places I could have left them, yet losing things just isn’t like me. So, I didn’t have much of a history of loss to go on. All I could do was retrace my steps. I was as helpless as… well, as a cockroach on its back. Maybe Daddy would lend His big toe and get me back on my feet. Did I deserve it? Technically, no, but maybe I’d stacked God’s favor in my favor that evening.

The moment I reentered the 7-Eleven from whence I’d treked, the clerk handed me my keys. Not the usual convenience store reception, mind you. Other patrons probably wondered what was going on. Was 7-Eleven now in the key copying market? It didn’t matter. That helpless cockroach let me “pay it forward” so favor would boomerang back only ten minutes later.

So, here I was, two weeks after a cockroach saved my life, catching some rays on a quiet volcanic beach in southern Taiwan… and there it was, also. I hadn’t seen one since I was nine. Of course, grandma and grandpa told me not to touch them because they sting. As waves kept flopping upon the water-balloon-sized jellyfish, I realized, he was a beautiful creature, though, he didn’t belong here.

Beaches are for drift wood and pebbles—sand dollars, clam shells, and star fish… so a little boy can throw one of a thousand back and say, “It made a difference to that one!” This was no place for a jellyfish. He needed to be in the water. But, what could I do?

It was in that moment that I noticed some nails sticking up out of the sand. “How dangerous,” I thought to myself. Perhaps seeking some act of charity to compensate for my lack of jellyfish rescue, I tugged at the nails to unearth whatever hid below the sand. Lo! They weren’t nails at all. This was a wire binding for bamboo rafts. The beach was lined with them. Floating bamboo is part of ocean fishing industry and the round coil they made was perfect for… why, that’s just it! This gives me a handle and a harmless round loop that won’t even scratch our jolly jelly friend.

Wave by wave I nudged our hero. I wasn’t even sure if he was alive. As water came in, I gently lifted him up so he’d go farther out to sea. For a second I thought I saw him twitch. Why hadn’t he moved before? Had he given up all hope?

This gizmo was perfect for the job. I could harmlessly nudge him and he’d move. As waves came, I gently held him from returning to shore, then pushed him through the water toward his home country. Only twice did he manage to squeeze right through the loop, but without fuss. It’s as if this wire coil were made for the job. Finally, in one of the waves, I saw him swim. It was just like on the Discovery Channel. All of his energy goes into a push. He was alive and finding his strength.

After gaining much “ground”, as it were, my new comrade and I came to a mini sand bar which seemed impossible for him to ford with the tide being what it was—and the strong surf being what it was. This was a long, shallow beach, after all. We began to make our way, accidentally, up the beach through something like a channel. As a wave came which I thought to ignore, a voice said in my head, “If he is taken toward shore by this wave, he won’t get back out to sea.” With what I could, I slowed him from the effect of the wave, but he slipped away. I’d helped just enough. One more nudge and he was happily swimming and soon vanished beneath the swirling froth. That was the last I saw of our friend.

I didn’t get a picture of him. There wasn’t time. But I brought home the tool that saved him. The ocean is full of jellyfish. But only one jellyfish saver sat on the beach that day, buried in the sand not ten steps from him. We didn’t have time to say goodbye, but I don’t think we needed it. I’d already given him a farewell only a few waves after I started nudging him out of the sand, “Now don’t sting any humans, okay?”

After a jog down the beach and back, I saw a young family with a husky, playing right where our jelly epic had taken place. Had I done nothing, someone could have stepped on the wires protruding from the volcanic sand. The dog might have become fascinated with the jellyfish, the dog gotten stung, and the jellyfish been in worse condition than Trayvon Martin. But that family saw neither jellyfish nor buried wire. Instead, they saw waves crashing against one of the most beautiful beaches in Asia. And that’s how it should have been.

So, did my pursuit of kindness save the dog or the jellyfish? Both, some might think. Jellies sting us humans. Why should I be so generous? It could be argued that jellyfish help keep the ocean clean, just like cockroaches clean our corners. Did I show grace today? A loop of wire dangerously buried, a jellyfish dangerously beached, and an husky dangerously closing were all wonderful things… in the wrong place. Would I focus on my revenge and defense? Or would I help everything find its proper place? Maybe, I didn’t save anyone today—there was simply a jellyfish on the beach and I helped him get back out to sea.

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Perseverance and Punishment

Needless to say, I’m a concerned for our country. It’s not from the economy—the state of which dates back to the Clinton years when the laws were set that affected the housing crisis. No, it’s not which political party is in charge—sometimes I can’t tell the difference, but that’s true of nearly any country’s politics. And, no, it’s not Obamacare—though I still think the country asked for it in November 2008. I finished grieving over the nationalization of Romneycare by the time Obama took the oath of office.

No, I’m concerned about a potential stand-off between honest police and honest citizens.. and it’s all from a misunderstanding.

I was raised as a Michigan Militia Redneck. Yep, a bitter nut who “clung to guns and religion”. That was me. It was how dad raised me. Don’t get me wrong, all my life, dad respected police officers and soldiers and he even taught me to respect every City and State Trooper, even if a traffic cop was in the wrong. If dad had a problem, he wouldn’t yell at police, he’d  thank the officer for keeping the roads safe, then go to Congress. Though I mellowed in time, as a Conservative I still believe that the US Constitution was the “constitution” of not only the nation, but also its prosperity. Dad, too, changed a little. Toward the end of his life, he stopped calling the Michigan Militia so much, stopped bothering Congress, and tried to live his own quiet life. We were pretty much in agreement about all that. To this day, while I don’t march with the Militia, I’m proud to have many Conservative hunters and gun owners as close friends. A 40 year old with camouflage and an NRA hat may scare a young city girl, but not me. They are my friends. So are many police officers.

Are governments evil? Both Democrats and Republicans would have us think so. China thinks every government is evil except their own, though I think they need to reconsider that position a little. As Reagan said, “Government isn’t the solution to the problem, Government IS the problem.” Yet, he didn’t encourage disrespect to authorities. Washington recently erected a monument to MLK Jr, who, himself taught that we need “peaceful” civil disobedience, sometimes, to make a point. I agree with our government’s respect for that man.

Have you heard the term “Sovereign Citizens“? Actually, they aren’t “sovereign”—they are angry and understandably so. But, “sovereign citizen” isn’t their own term, it’s a label they were given by law enforcement. By giving them special names, the government is unwittingly amplifying their influence. For the sake of peace: Governments, don’t call them a “movement”! They are individuals who don’t coordinate. Right or wrong, it would be best to call it an “attitude”.

As with many, there are two sides to this conflict, as well as a single Biblical solution for both. In a word: Patience. But, what does it mean to “persevere” or “have patient endurance”? Right now, both the angry citizens and the FBI think they are persevering, but they seem to have “perseverance” confused with “punishment”. No one has the right to take the law into their own hands—not citizens, not police, not police administrators, and not supposed Militias. If we don’t learn diplomacy on both sides, many lives could be lost.

During the Whiskey Rebellion, the Federal Government started stepping on the toes of corn farmers in the mountains. Corn is hard to transport, so, farmers refined corn into whiskey for easier transportation and more profitability. Next, laws come along trying to interfere with the market. George Washington, former general of the Militia, leader in the Revolution, and President of the Convention that gave us our current Constitution, called the military against the whiskey farmers. Probably, it broke Washington’s heart to do it, but the farmers were in rebellion without due process.

The Declaration of Independence was one step of a long and courteous procedure of expressing the frustration citizens had with feeling oppressed. The document summarized the tyranny of England as “eating out their substance”. That’s how the Whiskey farmers felt, but they didn’t write sober letters for appeal. They took up arms prematurely. The whiskey farmers were wronged, but their reaction was equally wrong.

It’s said that our founding fathers thought a rebellion in the nation would be good from time to time. But that doesn’t mean Thomas Jefferson wanted us to shoot a police officer when he stops someone for a traffic violation! If Supreme Chancellor Palpatine suddenly declared himself ruler of the USA, announcing it would be the first continental empire, and no more Congress.. then an armed rebellion would be in order, and the FBI and military would probably help out. Government officials and Tea Party leaders need to talk about these matters, not ignore them. By not teaching the American people why the founding fathers feared the government of their own constitution, “sovereign citizens” are without guidance and don’t know what made our nation’s revolution so special.

In one instance, a man was reportedly walking his dog in a local park. Well, actually, it used to be a local park, but the national park service had recently assumed command and, likewise, banned walking dogs without a leash. A park ranger asked for his name, he apparently didn’t want to be bothered by the bureaucracy that didn’t conform to the local community, and the ranger eventually tazed him. This is an example of “eating out their substance”. Walking dogs according to the new laws of the central bureaucracy is not punishable by tazer, but that’s what the ranger seemed to justify doing. The park ranger should be fired from any future police work at any government level in the nation. Officers of the law don’t shoot someone walking away who is not a threat, not even with an electric shock weapon. The man, however, should let this be a lesson to himself that he should take his grievances to Congress, not get mad and storm off. This time, it took two to fight, but the ranger was more in the wrong for using a weapon against an unarmed citizen who was not a threat. The national park service should have kept the previous “no leash” rule for that area of the park. The out-of-town-out-of-touch bureaucrats should also be fired. Let’s all learn from this. If you’re so smart—as a police officer or as a citizen or as a bureaucrat—then you should know how to keep situations from escalating.

American airline security screening also has a problem. But, again, my concern isn’t typical. If we looked at their track record, compared to the poor lady who forgot to leave her carry-hand gun at home, TSA has a terrible batting average of knowing who the real bad guys are. But one thing you won’t see me doing is stripping off my clothes at a security point with “fourth Amendment” written on my chest. The TSA officers may or may not be honest, but in any case, they don’t make the policies: Washington does. If you have a problem with TSA, think ahead, don’t wait until you arrive at the airport and create a scene. Instead, write the people in Congress who can make a difference. As for me, I refuse to travel on USA-bound airlines because of TSA, but not for the reason you might think. Many people quietly believe that TSA officers want to “eat out their substance” by conditioning the American public to think it’s okay to be harassed, so long the government has an excuse. However,  I disagree.  I’m not concerned about the TSA distributing pictures of my rock-hard body as most people may be. Rather, I’m concerned about the terrorists that may slip past their check points while Brad Pitt’s X-Ray has them distracted.

TSA doesn’t seem to do security, instead, I see politically correct grandstanding. Israel and China have greater security threats—and they have greater security effectiveness. TSA searches all the wrong people, much more invasively than even Communist China, much more expensively than Airports can afford, they don’t find any bad guys, and the wrong people still get past their nets. TSA isn’t “unethical” (like the tazer ranger was), but simply incompetent. We need capable national security in American airports.. which is why we don’t need status quo. The nation would be safer if China handled our airport screening, rather than the current bureaucrats, and I say this as a Conservative who respects City, County, State, FBI, and TSA officers. Until someone competent steps in, I urge citizens: If you don’t like TSA, don’t go to the airport to pick a fight!

Jesus said to Peter, “Those who live by the sword die by the sword.” Then He healed the soldier who was wrongfully arresting Him. Both Peter and that soldier learned an important lesson that day.. both of them. In Revelation 13, Heaven announces something similar, then calls Christians to “perseverance”. The Bible doesn’t only call citizens nor only police officers, but ALL of God’s people to choose “perseverance” rather than taking up arms and imprisonment.

(If you aren’t interested in the Greek, skip this paragraph.) Revelation 13:9-10 does not say, “if anyone is predestined for captivity,” as some translations may. It merely says, “if anyone is for captivity…” Based on the “kill with the sword, die by the sword,” idea in the early part of the verse, this sets a tone of the law of Sowing and Reaping. Therefore, in the Greek, “for captivity,” doesn’t mean, “captivity is your inescapable destiny,” but, “if you are in favor of imprisoning your enemies without a trial…”

This passage doesn’t address all of human history, nor it is about the death sentence discussion held through the centuries. This is about a serious and scary time period in the days just before Jesus returns when people and governments may get a little chaotic. Police officers and citizens alike may be very honest, yet misunderstand each other. There will always be corrupt police just like there will always be dishonest citizens. But, the closer we get to the return of Christ, the more trouble we will have knowing who our friends and enemies are. When civil unrest develops, many may say, “Those people are evil! They aren’t breaking any laws, but we still need to stop them!” Then, some may suggest taking up arms or prison sentences for crimes that laws haven’t been written for. When that happens, be patient. Persevere and don’t try to take the law into your own hands.

If you are a police officer who encounters a “sovereign citizen” attitude: Be kind, still, and calm. Say, “I understand and appreciate that you want to make sure I follow the State and Federal Constitution of our governments. If you like, I can provide you with my ID number in accordance with the law. But, for now, sir, you may still need to address this traffic ticket (or taxes, etc) properly.” Conscientious police can say this honestly and it could defuse an escalating problem. It may not seem like much if you are a police officer, but a citizen who is under a little stress might be really glad to hear those words, maybe even thankful. My father served in the MP during Vietnam. “That’s what we call, ‘keeping the honest people honest,’” he would often tell me. Proverbs 15:1, a gentle answer turns away wrath. This is perseverance and it could save two good men from an unnecessary conflict so both of them can go home to their families.

If you are a citizen who has “had enough” from the bureaucracy, whether at your job or with police and government: Don’t go rogue. Keep your head. Go to Congress. City, County, State, and Federal governments are different. If one government tells you, “We don’t handle that, the other government does,” they aren’t trying to push you off. Ask that official for help getting in contact with right elected official. And, remember: Only complain (respectfully) to elected officials (even if you voted against them) or their office staff, not bureaucrats that citizens don’t vote on. Politicians (including Sheriffs) love to hear from their voters. Most voters never call their governments. So, be courteous and decent. They may be glad merely to hear from you, but if you are disrespectful, they may be disappointed and then stop listening to you. It may not be right for them to do so, but you too can set a mature example. Still, it’s okay to be a little angry and let the politician know you’re angry, just make sure they know you are glad they take the time to hear you. Email is also great because they can read it fast and it doesn’t have to go through as much security screening—and they do actually read them. Think about it. Do things the right way and don’t take the law into your own hands. Proverbs 15:1, a gentle answer turns away wrath. This is perseverance and it could save many lives so all the good guys can go home to their families.

In the Bible, perseverance coincides with the Rapture of the Church. Jesus says to some of the Christians (Rev 3:10) “Because you kept the word of my perseverance, I will keep you from the great hour of tribulation..” (JEV—Jesse’s Evangelical Version, I know Greek so I translate it myself.) When I look at the call to perseverance of Rev 13:9-10, 14:12, and I see the struggle, I tend to believe that many Christians may be martyred, many will likely die in cataclysmic events (just as recently happened in Japan), and, maybe, only those who choose perseverance will see the rapture. The only words and terminology that refers to “taking” or “keeping from” in Revelation is Revelation 3:10, connected with perseverance. “Coming out of the great tribulation” in Revelation 7 doesn’t say how they came out or that they were “kept out”, it only says where they started and where they ended up.

Revelation 3:10 makes sense. To persevere rather than punish, is a tribulation of its own.  Any responsible police officer will say, “Punish them somehow. Prison, death sentence, something! You can’t just let criminals go loose or you’ll have lots of police work to do.” Yep. If you neither imprison nor have no death sentence—the police must persevere. This concept is not intended not for all time periods of history, but as Satan tries to take over the world according to prophecy about the End Times, there may be a point where we need extra patience. In our own lives, we might practice for that era now.

One time, recently, I was with a couple families on a Sunday afternoon. The boys in each family are friends and their horseplay was reaching that turning point where “fun” changes to “tears”. The situation hadn’t gotten ugly and I didn’t want to. I intervened, grabbing the more aggressive of the two boys, and started tickling him.

This boy has a strong will, so, he took exception to his “fun” being interrupted. He scowled at me and started clawing and biting. What did I do? I didn’t scold him. I didn’t slap him. I didn’t tell his mom.. I persevered. He’d try to attack me and I’d just keep him away. He’d grab for my shirt, I’d tickle him again. More and more he got tired and demoralized from lack of accomplishment. After five minutes, the conflict was reduced to a stare-off. He’d frown at me and I’d play-scowl until he laughed. Then, he’d get angry that I made him smile and he attacked me again. Five seconds later we’d repeat the same pattern and so forth. Finally, it was over and the rest of the afternoon was a fun time for everyone.

This happened in a public place. Sometimes, I got occasional looks of concern from people who didn’t know what all was happening. Was I attacking him? Was I playing too much? This didn’t look normal. If I had scolded him or taken him crying to his mother, people might have looked at me respectfully. But I’m not a politician seeking votes. My choice to persevere rather than to punish was misunderstood by those around me. Wisdom has a price and most people don’t understand what it means to apply perseverance to relationships. If you persevere with someone, you may also need to persevere with silent observers who don’t understand.

Perseverance isn’t an emotion, it’s a path. But it doesn’t merely mean that we keep pushing until we get whatever we want. Perseverance is, specifically, choosing an effective way that requires extra work on our part instead of punishing someone. Some situations call for punishment. We can choose between punishment and perseverance, just like we can choose between left and right. I’m merely pointing out the difference.

Wisdom can easily get us thinking that we must always choose punishment to prevent future problems. Yes, we need to think ahead and focus on the “principal of the matter”, but we should also consider perseverance as a responsible option. These days, we may have a use for both, but in the near future, our lives may depend on our choice to persevere. So, ask the Lord for wisdom. Seek out situations where you might choose perseverance rather than punishment so when the day comes, we know how to do the right thing. Let’s learn how to persevere now, while we have time.

There is much more that could be said about this. We could talk about martial arts where the Master only doges and blocks attacks until the aggressor becomes exhausted. This shows the Master’s great skill and wise patience. We could talk about the important role that forgiveness and grace may have in this. After all, it’s hard to be patient with people we hold a grudge against. We might consider the movie Soul Food where Grandmama simply makes things better and people learn without having to be scolded. If we explored this further there would be many other considerations, advantages, pitfalls, and in ten years I could probably write a lot more about it than I can now. But, for the time being, I don’t want to address all these questions in the same article. I just want to introduce the idea. If you have something else to say about this, please, I leave you the room to do so. After all, perseverance involves many people, by definition.

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Origins of Vision

In “Good to Great” by Jim Collins, we learn the value of what he calls “first-who-then-what” in terms of vision for an organization. In his study of companies that broke through the glass ceiling of “averageness” to “greatness”, the team was developed first, before they found their final vision and direction.

Collin’s observation, admittedly, departs from conventional wisdom—that vision comes FIRST. So, where does vision fit in? It almost seems to have become an enemy of so-called “leadership” these days. But, it all made sense this evening as I sat at McDonald’s, smothering my double quarter-pounder with cheese in ketchup—another opus of American research that has defiled all street advice.

So, what brilliant discovery popped into my mind as the [metaphoric] tomato hit me on the head? Collin’s “first-who-the-what” observation came paired with another observation he made—the “Level Five Leader”. (He didn’t think of anything better to call it, if you couldn’t tell.) This isn’t a personality type. “Level Five Leaders” are merely: humble, NOT charismatic (like Jobs, Caesar, and Napoleon were), and, most importantly.. they aren’t visionaries.

That’s why the good-to-great companies, in this blogger’s humble opinion, developed their vision AFTER they found the right team. When a group gets “chemistry” and finally gels, that TEAM gives vision to the organization.. visioning as a TEAM. They get the right people on the bus, then they figure out where they want to go—if they don’t know already. First-who-then-what works for organizations that don’t have a visionary.. probably founded by someone else, then inherited by a non-visionary level-five-leader.

Just hope that—if you’re on such a team—your leaders hold “first-who-then-what” as their priority. Get the right team—not centered on vision, but on teamwork itself. Then, be open to change. That’s what Collins saw, anyhow.

Visionary leaders are neither bad nor necessary. Apple defied the general conclusions of “Good to Great” because Jobs wasn’t a Level Five Leader. He was “Level Six”.. if there is such a thing. Steve returned to help Apple rebound unto Greatness—like a phoenix from the level-five ashes remaining after they fired their founding visionary.

So, once again, there are no absolute rules in growth. We still need vision, but it doesn’t always come from the same place. Who knows what we’ll observe next.

NOTE: This is intended to advance discussion on already existing ideas. This is neither a summary nor a critique of Jim Collins’ work. If you want to understand his ideas, I highly recommend any of his many Great books.

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Poetic Governance

When we consider the Sovereignty of God, the idea that He is in full control through all Creation, we often view it in an overly-simple way that breeds confusion. One classic example is the apparent conflict between God’s Sovereignty and Man’s Free Will. There are many other examples that are similar to this, including daily leading of the Lord. Does God truly care which shirt you wear? Well, perhaps He does.. today, but maybe He won’t tomorrow. And what does it mean that He cares? Is He testing us by giving us useless orders just to see what we will do? He absolutely never does that, even though we may not yet see how His direction affects our lives and the lives of others. Everything He does and commands has an influence toward His purposes and God trains us by giving us smaller assignments that matter and, when we come into line with His heart, He gives us bigger assignments that matter.. but it all matters.

The remaining question is: What does it mean that God is the Governor of Creation? By understanding this we will understand more of the manner in which God leads all Creation combined with a clearer view of the “dance” between God’s influence and our own.

Policy Governance

John Carver may be one of the most renown authors on the subject of Policy Governance. Don’t look at the terms lightly or assumptively. Some of us may hear these terms every day and forget that they have deep, technical meaning.

Policy refers to a set standard for how we always conduct ourselves on a certain issue in any situation. We have the Golden Rule, for example, “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” This is a Policy that Jesus gave us. It is a method of dealing with almost any issue involving others. It is a single standard, it is easy to understand, and because it is not too specific it can related to many situations. This is a Policy.

Everyone creates policy all the time. When you sleep through your morning alarm, you are setting a policy for yourself that the alarm is not intended to rouse you from bed. So, if you implement the same policy of the alarm clock several times, eventually, you no longer listen to it and you may end up missing a morning obligation. When a father becomes angry and snaps harshly at his children, he may think he is setting a policy that he can snap and his children can’t, but he is actually setting the policy that when we are angry, we snap harshly at other people. Soon enough, his children will become angry, snap at him, then he will correct them for disrespect, which sets another policy that his own rules do not apply to him. This reverses the Golden Rule that Jesus gave us, which also makes Him unwelcome in that home. A family breaks-down from there and eventually children grow up with severe problems and the parents have regret, not knowing fully why. Where did all of it start? With a simple policy.

It’s much easier to be effective in our lives and to understand God’s leadership by understanding how and what Policy is. With one standard, we set the stage for many other actions later on. With every action we take, we influence habits that will affect future actions. One DUI can diminish a person’s driving privileges, affecting work, income, happiness, even family. Policy affects future choices that are similar as well as future choices that may not even relate.

We might consider a chess game, where one move opens-up a series of possible moves into the future. A Rubik’s Cube is similar, as with many games, puzzles, and strategies. Even players of a sports team will aim for a series of plays to set-up other plays that can lead to victory. This is the effect of policy. It is something that we practice as habits and, then, one action will open doors to other options in the future. So, we can see why it is a good idea to practice for Policy with careful thought.

Governance

Policy is the core system used by many governments and leaders to lead and direct organizations, families, and nations. Parents might have a curfew for their children. Lights out at eleven will affect many decisions all through the day. High school students will need to think ahead, to be home in time for the curfew. It doesn’t so much matter what the young adults of the household are doing, within reason, just so long as they are ready for lights out at eleven. This Policy affects some decisions, but not others, and that is how it is intended.

We might say it has “clear vagueness” and a broad/specific target. Policy is often accused of not being descriptive enough, though, usually people who offer this criticism simply don’t understand what Policy is intended to do. Through Policy we can affect some decisions, but create freedom for other choices. The United States Constitution has a policy of three branches of government—though, often times in government, the term “policy” can be used with many meanings, sometimes to distinguish between bureaucratic rules and Law, but for our purposes, we’ll say that Constitution, Legislation, and even Bureaucracy are all matters of Policy.

When a leader or government uses Policy, this allows leadership from an arm’s reach. It can effect good direction without limiting too much freedom. Policy that is too specific steals freedom from people and requires much more force to make sure people obey it. In a sense, countries with little or no freedom simply have governments that give Policy (laws) that are too specific and address too many details—laws which are not vague enough. Of course, the motive of such governments usually involves a desire for control and domination over others. This is why many families, organizations, and nations suffer from over-policy. Often times, understanding how to use Policy effectively requires letting go of the desire for too much control, and that is a heart issue, not a matter of reading enough books on Administration. In other cases, leaders need the confidence to rise up and set Policy even when it isn’t popular. The heart of good leadership is closely tied to the skill of Policy. As with any sport, skill, or art, good technique is a matter of strengthening the related muscles. So it is with Policy, that the heart of the leader must also be strong and refined from all perspectives.

When managing an organization, nation, city, family, business, company, ministry, or team, leading with both strength and distance is not easy. This is called Governance, where Policy is not too technical and not too vague. Even within different levels of the organization, Policy will become more and more specific as structure gets closer and closer to the front lines of work. Policy for a cashier may be much more technical than policy that a store manager must follow. This is only natural, but even then, every level requires proper dynamics of both clarity and vagueness. Good leadership is strong while interfering as little as possible, which sets the stage for liberty and life. This aim is Governance and God is the Governor of all Creation.

Moses

One of the best examples of early Governance in Scripture is Moses. He was given the Ten Commandments, blueprints for the Temple and Tabernacle, Levitical Law and Deuteronomical Law. Moses set-up a judicial appeal system to settle the disputes of the people, just like Christ will do when He returns. Moses was intricately involved with the beginning of Policy for God’s plan to bring peace and life on earth. It brought enough rules to keep us healthy, alive, and respectful, but not so many rules that would hinder our ability to live, choose, take responsibility, learn from our own failures, and to do so without God punishing us for honestly trying. It was the perfect combination of clarity and vagueness. The Ten Commandments were the origin of law and justice and they came directly through the Perfect Governor. Moses was the person they were first executed through, so he had a lot of responsibility.

As with any Governance, enforcement and discipline for disobedience is necessary. Policy that isn’t expected to be followed can’t have a good impact. Even though enforcing rules may not always be fun, it’s even more not fun to have complete anarchy, theft, destruction, and injustice without proper rules. God called Moses to enforce rules within his human authority just as God will enforce Eternal Policy of sin and redemption from His own Godly Authority on His Throne in the End. All of us have Policy to both enforce and follow. If we violate the Policy we must follow, then we set a new Policy that our own Policy doesn’t need to be followed either. When leaders do this, we call them hypocrites.

A common problem with Policy and Governance is that times change. Some Policies never change, while others must. Before automobiles, simple dirt roads could handle traffic. But with mass production of engine-driven cars, fast speeds require roads with both strong traction (asphalt) and clearly-painted lines. Changes to these policies are the reason we have elected officials, politicians, and leaders in government. This was the passion of the men who formed the US Constitution. They knew that some things would change while other things should rarely change, and some things should never change. While we need roads with stronger traction and clear lines, we don’t need to change the fact that law, enforcement, and justice should remain three separate branches of government. So, the US Constitution did not address matters of the roadway. Those details are left for local governments to change and enforce and set policy as the times need. Knowing which things must change and which things must not is a heavy burden for every leader and Moses was no exception.

In the wilderness, at one point, when Israel needed water, God told Moses to tap the rock with his rod and water flowed. However, at a later date, when the people had the same need, God knew that the hearts of the people had changed and so should the water faucet Policy. The second time, God told Moses to speak to the rock. Instead, Moses tapped on the rock with his rod as before and, as before, water flowed. Moses took God’s Governance into his own hands and didn’t follow the Policy that he should have obeyed. Look at what this did to his own leadership: He wasn’t allowed to lead Israel across the Jordan into the Promised Land from that one, single act of bad Policy.

Was it really that important? How much faith might Israel have gained if they had seen the water flow from Moses’ word rather than from his rod? God obviously had a lesson for Israel in this. Small Policy makes a big difference. Like a ship at sea that is one degree off course, it could eventually end up at the wrong continent. God had to take action. By deposing Moses, the nation still learned enforcement, though it might have been better if Moses had seen the Promised Land that he worked so hard for. Had he gone with them, and God’s Policy been followed a la carte on Moses’ own terms, greater evil and recklessness could have broken-out once they arrived. “You disobeyed and you’re still in the Promised Land. So, maybe it isn’t that important,” they might say in defiance. Leaders themselves are not above the law, though it becomes very easy for any human leader to think so. Even God keeps with His own promises. His promises, after all, are Policy.

Think of a parent who punishes a young child for disobedience in a small matter. At an early age, a child has neither wisdom nor discretion. Young children do not understand roads and vehicles. If left in the street, a child could be killed. A child’s life may one day depend on the ability to obey mom and dad without defiance. If a child is in the road and a car is coming, the parent may need to say, “Come here,” and the child may die if he argues. So, a parent disciplines the young child in the smallest of things so that one day, if ever needed, the child will move out of the path of an oncoming car, obey first, and understand after, because he is still alive. Many times, understanding God requires obedience first. When we say, like young children, “Why!?” and wait to obey, we may think that we can blackmail God into explaining Himself, but we actually put ourselves in harm’s way, whether we know it or not. Like a small child, we can be in danger even if we do not understand why. So, God needed to keep Moses from entering the Promised Land because of his disobedience.

Learn by the Word or the Rod

The story of Moses, the rod, the word, and not entering the Promised Land is one we all know, but rarely do reflect on the poetry of it all. You may be familiar with the term Poetic Justice. This is exactly what God did in dealing with Moses. Consider this: Rod, Word.

Jesus said, “An unbelieving and adulterous generation asks for a sign,” (Mt 12:39) and, “Have you believed because you have seen me? Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.” (Jn 29:29, courtesy ESV).

In the metaphoric sense, Jesus is applauding those who learn with the word rather than the rod. The rod is punishment, execution of justice, infliction of pain to protect or to train. The word is merely spoken. We know the cliche, to learn the hard way. This is a reference to learning with the rod rather than with the word.

Those who only learn the hard way rarely understand the difference. They see someone suggesting a path of wisdom, which they have not personally learned, and they think it is either silliness or some magical, divine cosmic energy that guides the person along some magical-mystical path that no normal person could ever find. If, say, you suggest to such a person, “Don’t step there, it’s a mud puddle,” but then they step in it anyway (as expected from them), they look at you as if you are a mystical genius. “How did you know that?” they ask with their jaws on the floor. Hopefully, it isn’t too many such instances that this happens before they start to learn, but, sadly, too many people seem addicted to learning things the hard way. They like to learn by the rod rather than the word.

Words, however, are wisdom passed down from others. We can learn wisdom from people who are younger than us and some wisdom comes form experience, not specifically Scripture. Though, Scripture is, still, the greatest source of wisdom. Solomon talks about pursuing wisdom and that wisdom begins with fear of the Lord. Of all beings in existence, God is the one being most worthy of our fear and respect. That idea alone is the greatest and first step toward wisdom. Why? Because we have not yet been judged either guilty or forgiven at the final Judgment. We have not seen His rod and if we fear Him before seeing it, then we learn from word rather than rod, and that is wisdom.

We might think that, if we learn the hard way, we still learn. There is some truth in this, however, the ultimate lesson of learning the hard way is that it is better not to learn the hard way. So, if we learn the hard way, without learning that next time we shouldn’t learn the hard way, then we really didn’t learn the most important lesson. While we all learn the hard way in some instances, we don’t reach wisdom until we grow up and learn to learn the easy way. And the easy way is not just theory, blind obedience, or dogma. Rather, learning the easy way is gaining wisdom and foresight, to know deeply in our hearts what things are true and best, of our own thinking, and to do so without pain. That is what it means to learn from word rather than from rod.

Poetry

The first time, Moses was told to give water with his rod. The second time he was told to use his words. Because he used his rod rather than his words, he did not enter the Promised Land—learning with God’s rod, rather than God’s word. This is poetic justice.

From the moment Moses disobeyed, that picture was etched onto Moses’ heart, even if he hadn’t fully understood the poetry: not the rod, but the word. This was the first man of Policy for Israel, the scribe of law, deliverer of God’s own tablets. He saw the Ten Plagues, the burning bush, the halls of Egypt both as kin and as enemy of Pharaoh. He lived off manna from the sky for forty years of punishment, not for himself, but for his nation. Moses saw many works of God in his life. The poetic implications of rod and word for a man who parted the sea with his rod and delivered the Word of God are far-reaching.

Many times, in the Body of Christ, when we see such poetry in Scripture—well, let’s just say things get controversial. Some left-brained profs might call it a typology, though not a Christ typology which is different. Can we teach a Bible message merely on this? Well, maybe, so long as… but, to keep things simple, let’s leave poetry just as it is: poetry.

How many dry-genre theology books are written with a verbose, uncreative style? How many people read those books and how much vast division among Christians comes from such small audiences who read those books? Are there any best sellers in the SysTheo section? Most likely not, at least that I’m aware of. And it’s probably for good reason.

Look at how much of Scripture is poetic? Many of the Prophecy books are in prose or rhyme of some sort. Psalms is the largest single collection. Solomon’s wisdom is all in prose: Proverbs. John begins with descriptions of the incarnation that are like Tolkien’s telling of Arda. Even the Law has a beauty to it’s structure, as well as the subtle points of genealogies. New Testament letters were written in the slang of the times, which helps us understand why Black preachers and speakers can become among those more respected. God’s Word is beautiful and understandable, yet profound, not wordy and aloof. This is part of what Paul meant in 1 Cor 2:1.

Look at the Christian best sellers through history: Pilgrim’s Progress, Chronicles of Narnia, and more recently Left Behind. These are not didactic-literal works, they are stories that help us grasp the truth. And, though they are not perfect in their lessons, they are catchy. Why? Because they have that same attribute that is common through all genres of Scripture: Poetic Beauty.

In modern, Western preaching, it’s very easy to become uneasy about statements like, “Moses chose the rod rather than the word, so he was given the rod rather than the word.” In a left-minded, literal, non-poetic perspective, that can create all sorts of questions. However, a poet would have no trouble seeing it for it’s poetic beauty, say, “Hmm, yeah, that is kind of an attention-getter,” and move on without trying to develop new chapters of Systematic Theology.

I humbly suggest to the hyper-educated among Christian teachers, please, consider: Draw one picture, if you never have. Just try. And attempt to author even one, single poem, if you never have. Even in trying, you will gain an appreciation and appetite for poetry, art, and beauty in Scripture. Your lessons will take on a new flavor, more people will re-tweet your articles, and you will be less disturbed by more right-brained, outspoken, A-personality preachers. You might be just a little more understood and others may be more easy to understand. Don’t think that memorizing dictionaries, in any language, is the best form of diligence. Sometime, memorizing, crafting, and appreciating poetry can be equally necessary to understand our great Creative Creator God. And to everyone, my point is: Effective Policy is also poetic.

Poetic Policy

Poetry itself, has the attributes of good Governance Policy. And I don’t mean “poems” rather than “songs”. When I use the word “poetry” I refer to any genre that has a flair of beauty. Some speeches have neither rhyme nor meter, but they are poetic, just as was God’s justice with Moses. Martin Luther King Jr and Abraham Lincoln are both remembered for highly poetic speeches which did not rhyme. It’s interesting, that both of them produced great change, lead toward unity among the people, settling disputes, and their words long outlived their life spans.

When we understand the vague-clarity of poetry, it becomes easier to understand the vague-clarity of Policy. By seeing this connection, pondering the profound, legal beauty of Scripture, and understanding this in context of our daily habits, we pave the way to more effectively navigate and understand our own leadership, leaders below us, leaders above us, and God’s Governance leadership over all of us.

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Good Judgement: A Direction toward Reconciliation

It’s often goes without notice, with any conflict, that people who refuse to forgive usually have good reasons. The offending party may be, in fact, hazardous. A friend once sat at mother’s kitchen table and explained that there is a difference between trust and forgiveness. When hurt, it’s easy to become drunk on anger. But, then we often attempt to sedate our anger-drunkenness through abused wife complexes and encourage the beating to continue. A mother can do this as a way to survive, even rebuking her children who try to stand up to the abusive father. Too often, this disaster is viewed as “forgiveness”. Letting a murderer walk, no matter how “sorry” he is, isn’t merely about our own feelings towards him. It’s about our need to protect other innocent people from future harm. Our own pain can easily lead to narcissism and we no longer consider needs of others. We easily think that, in order to “forgive”, other innocent people must be put at risk. From that warped view of so-called “forgiveness”, neither option to “forgive” or “not forgive” seems attractive. We tend to either encourage further abuse or try to return abuse for abuse. This situation clouds our vision and is often at the core of why many people do not reconcile their differences. They simply cannot.

We all know we should forgive, but, with the dust yet unsettled, sorting through the vague differences between forgiveness and trust is often beyond our ability. Many times, we’d gladly repent for wrong we have actually done, but we don’t want to let go of truth because that would risk harming others. We stay angry because we don’t know the difference. Conflict needs clarity—to know what issues are truth and what vices come from our own pride and arrogance. Left to ourselves, we often either throw out our babies with their bathwater or else keep the babies swimming in their own filth. This is the dilemma of conflict and reconciliation.

We aren’t the first people to have such problems. This is the human problem, sin. It’s beyond us. We can’t solve it on our own. It has gone on for millennia. And it is from this problem of society that people cry out for someone we call a “Judge”.

History tells of many societies where conflicts arose amidst anarchy. Soon, people identify individuals among their society who can answer their questions and help restore their broken relationships. Two warring parties will agree to submit themselves to the opinion of another—in their supposed “arrogance” they remain willing to take orders from a third party, verifying the notion that we often maintain our controversial opinions because of our inner desire for justice. We would rather take orders from another person than merely have our own way. Staying in conflict is difficult and unpleasant. We would rather move forward, even if it’s on someone else’s terms. This is normal for most people. Those who don’t submit to such wisdom are accused of something more heinous: Contempt of Court. Most of us want a judge. It’s why counties elect their own judges and sheriffs.

History is also filled with rulers who first began as a private judge. The Book of Judges records events where a judge would lead a leaderless people out of oppression. Moses also performed this duty: After leading Israel out of slavery, he settled their disputes. His father-in-law recommended a hierarchy of judges so those with greater wisdom could reserve their time for more difficult disputes. This is the work of a judge.

In the spiritual sense, what does a judge do? He leads us through the haze, sorting-out our marbles, helping us make our way to forgiveness. Forgiveness is a plight that requires sound judgment. We need a judge to decide for us so that we can all move on. Judgment is both a ministry of Forgiveness and its foundation. Without Judgment there can be no Forgiveness and ultimately, for the redeemed, Forgiveness flows only and always from Judgment. What we often interpret as a lack of forgiveness is actually symptomatic of a lack of judgment.

From this paradigm, of our own conflict, we see why Christ’s leadership over us as our Judge is a blessing. Judgment is itself a Grace. He is not only our Bridgroom, not only our King, but we also get to have Him as our Judge.

Therefore, to find our Way forward, we can only begin by calling out to our Judge. Conflict is like a horror story: Salvation is not in the room. We need outside intervention. We must call on the Lord to save us. Only in that distress call can we ever hope to receive the answer that leads to Life. This is one of the first reasons why we pray, together.

We must assemble, come together, offer up our complaint to He who is Worthy to Hear. He knows our hesitancy. He knows our cry. He can answer. But because He is a Just and Fair Ruler, He will only render His Judgment of Forgiveness if we raise Him up as our Judge. Like in stories of old, even God will only Judge us if we ask Him to.

So, let us ask for His Wisdom and Good Judgment. Let us petition that He would send His Judgment on us. His Judgment is our only Hope.

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The Poetic Magic of Policy

Interpreting Researched Information –

Several years ago I had been reading about the British march the morning after Paul Revere’s midnight ride. While British soldiers were in retreat, American militia continued shooting. This caught the British by surprise and offended their view of “war conduct”, specifically not to fire on soldiers in retreat. In reflecting with my father, he said, “Americans didn’t much care for British ‘conduct’ in war.” I never thought much about it, nor have I had a reason to. But a thought hit me randomly just recently: It wasn’t that Americans had a different set of values about firing on an army in retreat; they didn’t see the British as being in “retreat”, but “relocating”. Ultimately, we didn’t chase the British back to England, only from our own shores. The Americans had the same values. The difference was their “view” or “vision”.

This seemed an interesting idea as it occurred to me, but I was far more interested in a later realization as I continued to ponder: The British were thinking in terms of that isolated campaign, the Americans wanted them out of the country because they knew the British wanted to launch such campaigns in the future. The American view was more of the “big picture”.

The history book where I read about this story mentioned nothing of “relocating v retreating”, nor anything of “vision” or “big picture”. These types of observations are not often part of the initial observations made by historians or even eye witnesses to the actual events. The responses and interpretations given by most people carry a heavy dose of truth, but they are rarely articulated in a way that may contribute to significant and highly-impacting understanding. Our first impressions are often seen as either “true” or “false”. Instead, I prefer to use the term “incomplete”.

Incomplete impressions of events are EXTREMELY common. When we share our first impressions we can easily find disagreement. One guy may have half of the picture, another guy the other half, neither one is identical. They think it’s a disagreement. Then, “moderate-politician” types of thinkers enter the scene and try to resolve that conflict through “compromise”. They take the two separate pieces from the disagreement and try to synthesize them, creating a “Frankenstein” composite of the two. If we were to compare these different perspectives to different pieces of a puzzle, moderate politician types might look for similar trends in colors or shapes. One piece, out of three, may have radically different colors, so they think it should be thrown-out or, perhaps, placed in a second “Frankenstein”. In some cases, perhaps it should be, my point is that “moderate-politician” types prefer to “always” throw-out what their methods can’t address. “Moderate-politician” types often rise in society, slightly above average, because they demonstrate knowledge of different people’s perspectives and get people to stop arguing for an amount of time. Their accomplishment is, in Jim Collins’ terms, “goodness” rather than “greatness”.

In the context of boards and organizations, one might easily have an impression of my little American history “daydream-epiphany Jesse thought” and think that it was about “vision” and “leadership” and “why we Americans won the Revolution”. Those things, however, are the actual observation—the “vision” concept is a coincidence. The way my “daydream-epiphany” relates to a board is in the nature of the “light bulb” moment itself. Arriving at the idea about the American-vs-British perspectives is not one “incomplete impression” winning over another incomplete impression, nor is it a “moderate-politician Frankenstein compromise”. It was a thought-through impression that eventually developed a quality of “completeness”. It may not even piece together the full puzzle, but it certainly involved realizing that the pieces complemented each other and needed to be put together to reveal a design other than the edges of the pieces themselves.

These “epiphany light bulb” ideas are part of what we appreciate Malcolm Gladwell for. Jim Collins would work with his research team as they drowned themselves in data until that light bulb would switch on—creating the theme for another chapter in their book. Freakonomics is a similar collection and there are many other examples of such interpretations of life which we often enjoy discussing.

This process of the light bulb switching on is itself something I have been learning about these past few months. Most everyone has experienced a light bulb moment in the middle of their days, but I have been evaluating that process more and more. It closely relates to visioning. What contributes to that moment? Is it mere time? Is it education? Is it experience? Is it meaningful reflection with wise people? I believe it is all of the above, plus, light bulbs will always relate to the talent of the person experiencing them switch on. To think about stuff we need stuff to think about and to know how to think about it. For Collins, it’s organization. For Mozart it was symphonies. For Gladwell it’s any random thing.

Here is one quote from an email I sent to a young man who was trying to use a “moderate-politician” paradigm and kept talking about “betweeness” and “middle ground”.

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You have a good point with the “between” concept, but this is another key in reconciliation and effective board operation. “Between” is actually a reference to gray being the expression of black and white. What we want isn’t even color, but, as God’s Church, 3-D! White must be separated, and after the new color spectrum is introduced, movie makers actually take a picture and make two, one without blue, the other without red, for instance, and lay them on top of each other, separated. A symbolic application would be your perspective “lacks” red and mine “lacks” blue.. with the right lens, our “lackings” produce 3-D. This is “synergy”, 1+1=5. A baby, cut in half, isn’t two halves of a baby, it’s a dead baby. Together, a baby is more than two dead halves. The whole is greater than the sum of the parts. This is ANYTHING but “between”. That’s an example of the vocabulary distinctions that I think “upgrade” rather than “disagree”. True Bible interpretation offers this color-spectrum, but doesn’t stop there, it goes all the way to 3-D through “lacking” skills and perspectives and needing each other for the purpose of triangulating. It’s why we all have two eyes: depth perception.

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To add more to the 3-D concept, in creating a still image (picture as opposed to movie) in 3-D, the photographer actually takes two pictures of the same scene, but from two positions about three to five inches apart from each other. One of those images he then “takes out the red” and in the other he “takes out the blue”. Your eyes naturally see the blur and want to put the blue from one region in place with the red from the other to complement what is “lacking” in each region. Human eyes are designed to do this automatically. Not all animals triangulate their eyes for depth perception, take horses and birds, for instance, that have a 360º range of vision. But, for humans, triangulation and reconciling of differences of perspective is a matter of “depth perception” and that is how the Image of God has “vision” and “foresight”.

The problem with “moderate-politician” types is that their entire paradigm is in gray spectrum, in other words they ARE “black and white TV screens”. When they try to view a 3-D movie, their conclusion is that the movie is blurry. They try to be nice and understanding, offering tips of advice to the film makers, trying not to offend the producer in suggesting that they get the focus a little better in their next film. They lack the spectrum range to “see” the true value of the image and they don’t even realize it. For a “moderate-politician” type, the fact that they can’t see in color doesn’t merely mean that they can’t see colors; it means that they see “blur” instead of “3-D”.

The dirty little secret about Independent voting is that Independents aren’t moderates. It is true that moderate politicians get more Independent voters than wimpy Republicans and Democrats can get, but Reagan got the Independents AND even some Democrat voters because he sees in color and knows when to put on the 3-D glasses. He, like those glasses, helps to interpret the image for the people so that they can have “vision” and “depth perception”. For any organization, the mission statement is merely an extension of the visionary-leader of that organization—much like Rush Limbaugh’s radio program is an extension of Rush Limbaugh. That mission statement and the company “policy” is the “monthly column” that the organization understands the visionary’s mind through. People rise up and great things happen when a “vision with teeth” is made decipherable through the proper lens.

In contemporary methodology concerning interpretation of research and market feedback, the operative paradigm is often to “synthesize” the various forms of feedback. This itself is yet another “Frankenstein-beetweenness-middle-ground” approach and misses the target. Our aim ought not be to “synthesize” different pieces of market feedback, but to triangulate them. In the case of dots, two points make a line; however, in the case of eyes, two points of perspective form a triangle against the object being perceived. “Synthesizing” research interpretation methodology turns those two “perspective points of view” into a line rather than triangulating them into a basis for 3-D viewing. In order to accurately interpret what those points of perspective are viewing, the research interpreter must be well-versed, having a good history, with understanding MANY points of view on subjects he understands as well as having a thorough understanding of what those points of view are triangulated against. To understand feedback on computers, for instance, the research interpreter must have thousands of hours of experience and reflection on, collectively and with quality, all of: 1. helping people resolve conflicts between each other, 2. computers, 3. review of others’ breakthroughs for interpreting history and feedback, 4. the PURPOSE which those giving feedback want to use the computers FOR, such as artwork, and 5. having tried to use computers for that same purpose, or similar purposes, himself. This may be part of how studying Art helped Steve Jobs develop a company for customers that made computers useful for Fine Arts.

Policy Governance –

One of the more brilliant, all time examples of “policy governance” is, without saying, The US Constitution. One aspect caught my attention, recently, in an effort to explain some of the “Poetic Magic” of wide-scale policy crafting. I’m coming to believe that this is an explanation that may have no abstract terms to define it. With most concepts, a dictionary will make good use of synonyms to explain the meaning of a given word. “Policy governance at the crafting level” has no such synonyms. When policy governance is explained, we often look at examples and cite-in on virtuous aspects of those examples or abstract ideas closely related, and, in this much, we still miss the actual concept, despite our most diligent and noble effort to understand. I have come to believe, that this definition of “policy governance”, specifically at the “crafting” skill level, is something that may be able to be understood by many leaders of various kinds, however, it may only be able to be “explained” by someone with an in-borne gifting. My hypothesis, after carefully gathering and analyzing data, is that such people who can explain “policy governance” to others are 1. “borne about once in a generation”, not numerically, but poetically speaking, and 2. must wait until about the age of 30 years old before that in-borne ability comes to fruition and becomes functional for working with others. The reason for this age of “30″ comes from situations with a number of people, and particularly, the lives of Joseph and Jesus. Both of them, at the time when their “public impact” began, were 30 years old and, until then, had lives, mostly, of solitude, which society would have regarded as having “little or no progress”. For that “personality” type (for lack of better terms), their time of solitude involved opportunity for maturation of their various skills, development of their “brain chemistry” into full adulthood, and plenty of time to give heavy introspective reflection upon their seemingly-insignificant life circumstances. Other examples may be Abraham Lincoln, King David, Bill Gates, and Steve Jobs, all of whom came from the least-likely backgrounds, but had a noticeable “gifting” from childhood and didn’t have their final successes, like Joseph, until after small successes and large, drawn-out periods of failure. I, myself, am of the age of 30 at the time I write this. Therefore, though I feel something stirring in my heart that may come to fruition soon, at best, this theory can only be regarded as a hypothesis, and not an actual thesis, where my own life is concerned, along with any relevant connection to the theory itself.

Early in his life, Joseph significantly offended his brothers. Arguably, it was due to a lack of tact. He “outshined” those around him to such a point where his father was willing to look almost foolish in giving his son such a “coat of many colors” that would inevitably insight jealousy from his brothers. His father was so overcome by his special love for Joseph—for something only a father might see in a young man—that the anticipated objection of his other sons was eclipsed by his infatuation with Joseph. Joseph’s sharing of his dreams could have been regarded as a similar level of tactlessness. Did his brothers think he was fabricating the dreams, that they would one day bow to him? Did they think it was real, but were so angered because he did not “keep it to himself”? Were his brothers using any form of logical reason whatsoever or was their jealousy an “animal-instinct-like” reaction to Joseph’s embryonic state of his unique gifting? Regardless of the answers to these questions, it may often be claimed, and often has been claimed, that Joseph needed to “learn tact” before he could be ready for the high position of “Acting Pharaoh”. However, this is not a sufficient interpretation of Joseph’s life. “Learning to not do things rudely” wasn’t Joseph’s issue so much as his particular gifting—as we all have unique gifting—specifically required high levels of life-pain and introspective reflection, largely in solitude, before that gifting could function properly. Joseph didn’t need repentance, he needed time. Surely there were sin issues in Joseph’s life and he likely needed to apologize to many people for various things, but his youthful behavior of “outshining-tactlessness” was not among them. Some liked it, others hated it. He had unexplainable friends and unexplainable enemies—unexplainable successes and unexplainable failures. Why else would Potiphar elevate a slave to manage his entire house, Potiphar’s wife be so willing to have such a good manager thrown in prison on false charges, then the jailer put that prisoner in charge of managing the prison? Why would Pharaoh make a slave-prisoner, with an unacquitted accusation, acting ruler of all the land? This all relates to Joseph’s rare talent set. It isn’t especially wonderful, nor is it “better” than others. Rather, this explanation merely helps us understand Joseph’s life a little more accurately than a “first impression” may offer. Something unexplainable about Joseph stood out in those situations. Words could not be assembled to describe it. We only know those situations in their uniqueness by retelling their example. Ultimately, Joseph went from literal bottom to literal top of society through having given but one explanation to Pharaoh: seven years, ten percent, seven years. “Five-ten-seven” may have meant not having enough grain in later years, as may have “seven-five-seven”. The percentage of “ten” was something Joseph crafted on his own. Had it been “seven-twenty-seven”, some level of shortage may have emerged within Egypt itself. Both Joseph and Pharaoh knew, without a committee meeting or brainstorming session or research data, that “ten” was the figure for the percentage of grain to store in the first seven years of abundance. Joseph gave the numbers and Pharaoh “recognized” them as proper, much like King Nebuchadnezzar “recognized” that Daniel had given the correct interpretation of his dream, though the king had not been able to develop that interpretation himself. The explanation solved the mystery. They each gave interpretation to vision. Joseph’s numbers were the right numbers for the right situation for the right time. Joseph’s gift was knowing what those numbers were. Pharaoh, having the vision, was able to recognize them as being so valuable. That simple “governance policy” that Joseph crafted for the nation explained, without words, a concept that Pharaoh understood loud and clear: Joseph should be the one to make it all happen.

Promoting himself wasn’t necessarily Joseph’s intention, though he certainly didn’t object. Lincoln did try to run for office, thus “recommending himself” while Gates and Jobs mainly told the people in their own companies, rather than the world, about their anticipated successes. Joseph’s promotion wasn’t related to whether he suggested that he be made Acting Pharaoh or not. The key with Joseph was that “seven, ten, seven” had an impact on Pharaoh’s mind. It spoke to Pharaoh. That sequence had relevance that was far reaching in its effect and initiated Pharaoh’s heart to create a new executive management position without further consultation. Somehow, seven-ten-seven translated to Pharaoh as, “pronounce Joseph as Acting Pharaoh”. This, of course, was because of context and how those numbers applied. But, “Why?” is the question. This is the very art of crafting “great-transformational governance policy”. Egypt rose to such power in the earth as a result of that number sequence discussed in the highest halls of that nation, it almost seems supernatural and unpredictable. Why those numbers mattered can’t be explained. Sure, we can say, “Seven was from the dream,” but that doesn’t explain “why” that simple sequence had such an effect. “Saving ten percent for the bountiful years of harvest would make sense,” we might say, but that is a mere summarizing of the events, it doesn’t explain the function behind them. It wasn’t Joseph’s tactfulness, nor his style. It wasn’t that he bowed properly to the King. It was the policy of seven-ten-seven, applied to years and amounts, which affected Pharaoh’s choices, and without any sales skill or closing technique.

Years later, after Joseph’s father had passed, his brothers still could not understand the “policy crafting” skill of Joseph’s mind. Those closest to him still thought, after all his generosity, that he would have them killed with the passing of their father. Any other family may have been able to understand that they had been forgiven. Somehow, Joseph was always “a little misunderstood” by those close to him. His response, “You meant it for evil, but God meant it for good,” was, itself, a well-crafted “governance policy system”. In that case, it was more of an interpretation than an implementation, but the same crafting eye that came up with seven-ten-seven to apply Pharaoh’s dream to Egypt’s situation saw this. The poetry of what Joseph told his brothers, “You meant it for evil, but God meant it for good,” is also easily overlooked, even with our most diligent and admirable reflection. Yes, it tells of forgiveness and God’s sovereignty, but why? The statement, “You meant it for evil,” doesn’t have the word “evil” as the primary observation, but the verb “meant”. Joseph’s brothers may have thought that they were “doing” evil, but that would require an accomplishment. Joseph’s “big picture” leader lens of vision saw the end, perhaps something in the vicinity of, “All is well that ends well.” In the first clause, “You meant it for evil,” Joseph is explaining that they did not successfully “do” or “accomplish” evil, it was only their intention. The more important clause, however, gets the last word, implying that there is something more than the “intent” of his brothers. “…but God meant it for good.” This, being the weightier, does contain two important messages, not just one. There is the verb, “meant” as well as the abstract noun, “good”. Joseph is helping his brothers to re-interpret all that has happened as being “good”. We can say it should be obvious to them, but their brother is one whom they have great difficulty understanding. Living off of the fat of the new, wealthiest nation in the region is something they couldn’t explain. Why would Joseph bring them to this lifestyle when they had treated him so? They had no lens to help them interpret the situation. Joseph helps them make that interpretation, not through explaining his lens, but by simply showing them what is revealed in there situation: “good”. A lens is clear and hard to understand without looking through it. The magnification factor of a lens is described by the amount which it magnifies the image shown through it, not the thickness or shape of the lens itself. The other point Joseph made in his second clause was that God “meant” the events as they were. Joseph’s bondage had a purpose. The self-inflicted “outshining tactlessness” of Joseph’s younger years was a self-effecting device of his “personality makeup” that instigated those in his life to put him in a place where his particular talent set would have the necessary solitude to germinate until he was, in Joseph’s case, 30 years old. God didn’t “salvage” the early events of Joseph’s life, nor did Joseph “intend/mean for” them, rather, “God meant” for them to happen—and He meant it for “good”. That interpretation provided the necessary “life interpretation policy” for his brothers to get past there past and those words were instantly crafted in the conversation by the same man who helped Egypt rise to great power, while saving his family in the process, through the simple sequence of seven-ten-seven.

In regards to my earlier comment about The US Constitution, the Bill of Rights was of particular interest. Not only was The Bill of Rights the first of the Amendments made to The US Constitution, it was both “close” (in immediate proximity) to the original framework as well as “separate” from it. It was the first, and arguably, most significant “afterthought” with regard to the original Constitution itself. But why has it had such an impact? I believe, it is because those first ten Amendments were voted on and ratified together as one collection.

This “grouping” of items is remarkably significant. Each of the rights defined in those Amendments are rarely referenced as “Bill of Rights Article One” or something of the sort. Instead, they are nearly always called, “First Amendment Right” or something of that nature. They are referred to as both “Amendments” and “Rights”. This deeply reflects how the nation perceives those first ten Amendments. Though they were ratified collectively, they were considered separate Amendments. Though they were separate Amendments, they were ratified collectively. Being together, they were also given a common title, “Bill of Rights”, which is only a title references and is not “binding” in a legal sense. There are other Amendments with “rights”, such as Amendment Article XIII (abolishing slavery) or Amendment Article XV (voting and race) or Amendment Article XIX (voting and gender) or Amendment Article XXI (voting age of 18 guaranteed) or Amendment Article XXIV (forbidding voting poll tax). Why are these not so often referred to as “Thirteenth Amendment Right” or something along those lines? Is it because they were not passed with a title over them containing the word “Rights”? We might easily think that this title, “Bill of Rights”, is where the pattern of using the word “Right” in “First Amendment RIGHT” comes from. However, I don’t postulate that the title was the most significant factor as the factor that they first ten were “grouped” together. I’m sure that the title, “Bill of Rights” was a factor in referencing the first ten amendments as rights, but the “stickiness” that caused the label to stick seems to go deeper than the mere title of the collection. Those later Amendments, just listed, are often seen as “humane and should have been assumed anyways”. In society today, no one in his right mind would call “non-slavery” a “right”—rather, anyone thinking “slavery” is an option would be considered out of his mind! So, why isn’t Amendment Article XIII considered a “right” as is the case with the first ten Amendments? I suspect that the word “Right” in reference to the rights defined in the first ten Amendments actually comes from the Declaration of Independence, with reference to, “..certain inalienable rights.” Language of the Bill of Rights and the mentality of Constitutional crafting in that time closely reflected this idea, that the Creator gave us rights and government does not “institute” them, but “recognizes” those rights which already exist. The later rights after the Bill of Rights (previously listed) only updated us to what should have been assumed to begin with. The rights in the Bill of Rights are rights most governments often fail to recognize. They deserved a special place as the “first afterthought” in the framing of The US Constitution because recognizing them is one of the key components that makes the country unique among other nations.

These are part of what, like Egypt’s rise to power, helped America rise to power, and straying from them is what coincided with America falling from its status among other nations of the world. Seeing these ten items as “rights” helped make America who she was best known for. I postulate that they were primarily seen that way, not because of their unofficial label, “Bill of Rights”, but because, they, being in likeness, were “separate, yet grouped” and vocabulary of “certain inalienable rights” from the previously written Declaration of Independence stuck to the collection of first ten amendments like many objects stick to a ball of tar. This group has been often remembered with reference terms that the Declaration of Independence used to define the very concept of “Rights” among the peoples of the earth. Knowing to “separate, yet group” those ten items was a gift that those framing our nation’s founding documents may not have known they were using in their fullest sense. It might have simply been seen as “easier for ratification by States” or “less likely for politicians to eliminate one because it would mean eliminating the other nine”. However, there were effects of that “separated-grouping” that stretched far beyond what many may have anticipated. Americans already knew that they had “Rights” and now they have “sticky terms” with which to express themselves as they exercised those rights.

The ability to calculate such collections as “separate, grouped”—and “seven-ten-seven”, in the case of Joseph—is the “crafting skill” of those who, poetically speaking, come once in a generation, and those effects are rarely able to be understood, let alone explained. To many, those crafted policies still may be seen as nonsense or, better yet, recognized by many for being brilliant without the full understanding of why. Joseph’s brothers didn’t fully understand him, but they knew they were in the prosperous nation of their time. The same goes for many an American who enjoy the liberties that they know work, but they still may not fully grasp all the technical reasons why those liberties last. They don’t need to know why. God sends people who have that ability once in a generation so that those more talented within the actual society can work to make that people group function how it needs to. All Egypt’s people needed was for one man to say to the man at top, “seven-ten-seven,” just as American needed “separated-grouped”. Those who do that, often do so without knowing why, it’s just something that finally “makes sense” after unexplained successes and failures—and it starts showing results in their lives at about the age of 30.

As I mentioned previously, the ability to have a “light bulb” switch on with such things requires proper information to reflect on as well as knowing how to reflect on it. This particular light bulb about the Bill of Rights—which may be improved on by myself or others in the future, of course—came after meditating on, of all things, The US Constitution and it’s Amendments. I had to have the Constitution well in my mind for a “light bulb” about the Constitution to switch on. This partially relates to why God told Joshua, “meditate,” on Scripture, “day and night,” “not depart from your lips,” and things of the sort (Josh 1:8). “Meditation” precedes and causes “light bulb!” From whom did I get the idea to “study the Constitution”? None other than Abraham Lincoln, another one with a life similar to Joseph’s.

Lincoln is largely known for “saving the Union” and, alternately “ending slavery”—as those two are often debated for which deserves more priority, which relates to the “policy crafting” point I am making. A trend in recent historians’ interpretation of Lincoln is that, he recognized that certain devices were in place form the framing of The US Constitution that would inevitably end slavery. Those at the Constitutional Convention of 1787 who wanted to end slavery at that time were in a power struggle against those at the same Convention who would refuse. So, they crafted and put those “subtle governance policies” in place with the intention that such seemingly insignificant policies as “separated-grouped” or “seven-ten-seven”, occasionally called “devices” by contemporaries, would eventually end slavery. They knew that the hearts of the people recognized “certain inalienable rights” and, eventually, tyranny would fail and working, business-owning, free people would blow the whistle on slavery. Lincoln recognized this. Why? Because he knew to, “study the Constitution.” All he did was “preserve the union”, something difficult to argue with, but something that had the far-reaching effect of “actually” ending slavery, not just talking about it, and it happened through a “policy governance” subtlety that could only be crafted by few in a generation, people who were like Joseph.

Up to this point of this article, we have only reviewed and cross-referenced history. I believe a time is coming when we will move forward in our society. Malcolm Gladwell, in “Blink”, describes the “intuition” or “gut feeling” nature, in a manner of words. He explains at one point, how, most people can make decisions instinctively and accurately, so long as they don’t try to put too much vocabulary to their thought process. However, when average, normal, untrained people are asked to identify, say, different flavors of several recipes of sauce, and use vocabulary to explain the different tastes, it’s difficult. But, once a person has been trained in identifying vocabulary for such differences to a point he might be regarded as a “trained professional” or “skilled researcher”, using vocabulary to describe the differences, say, between different flavors of several recipes of sauce, actually increases the quality of their observations. At that point, the “skilled researcher” is able to make recipe flavors that are of higher quality. They don’t always succeed in the business world of sauce, but they are in the position that they stand a reasonable chance. This coincides with a rule Gladwell references in “Outliers”, the ten-thousand hour rule. Usually, for instance, musicians, with a typical practice week all through grade school, high school, and college, hit various stages of ability. At 6,000 hours of practice, they have a good hobby and might play in their local church or community. At about 8,000 hours of practice, they may be a teacher or professor. But there is something, as Gladwell points out, about 10,000 hours where that skill level becomes “world class”. I suspect, that at about age 30, Joseph, Jesus, and Lincoln, all had their 10,000 hours in. That’s why they went from having nearly “no followers” to making a significant impact for those who both loyally followed as well as despised them. There may be many people who can “craft subtle, poetic governance policy” to help others. They may even be able to explain it, perhaps with example, to many other leaders of that day who can implement the “lens” necessary to add such subtlety to their own policy, but I believe we are reaching a point in history where we will wrap our fingers around the “vocabulary” so that we can take “world-class governance policy” and add an ability to “describe” the subtle, poetic crafting skill on a level that is also world-class. When that happens, leaders, factory workers, sole proprietors, managers, soccer moms, law-makers, businessmen, artists, and people in every corner of society will feel a new an unexplainable freedom and inspirational empowerment to perform their tasks on a whole new level. This is part of why I believe we are all reaching a season of breakthrough. Through the power of friendship and consulting, all it takes is any one organization to experience their own transformation in this regard. Then, the many within that organization will be able to “carry the inspirational virus of the governance policy crafting lens” to others. It won’t need to be sold or promoted. It only needs to happen right in the very space in front of us.

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Beautiful Homosexuals

The following article was written in 2010. While I never write for only one person, rather, for the benefit of all who may read, it may help to know the background.

This post has recently become more popular in Asia, which does not identify with the same question of homosexuality that is running through America. That’s not to say that Homosexuality is irrelevant in the Far East, but the impact it has from and on society takes a radically different shape. There are many things that America and Asia do not understand about each other, especially when they try to understand through literature. They both look at a question that impacts each culture differently and then superimpose their own motives onto the motives of the other. Of particular interest was the 1977 luncheon between Witness Lee and Walter Martin, which began great friendship when they met in person, but soon gave way to hostilities when their respective ministries resumed attempts to resolve conflict in writing and by reading each other’s literature instead of having further fellowship in-person.

There is a great need for Christians all over the world to understand each other properly, which can’t happen if we only write letters to each other in periodicals. Homosexuality is no different. We are long over due for parents and their adult children to understand each other. As grandma always told us kids, “Who’s the older one? Then be responsible.”

Many parents and Christian leaders have been affected by the rising number of open homosexuals in and among the Christian community. Few of them have known how to respond. It was the purpose of this article to gently help parents and Christian leaders to see how the overall American Church, in its conformity to American culture, contributed to the current situation, if not having caused it altogether. It isn’t right for the Church to allow its most active members to perpetuate jockular assumptions, such as, “Crying is for girls,” “real men play football,” “artists are gay,” etc., but then shun our creative and brilliant youth when, at the age of 18 they reply, “Fine. I cry when I’m sad, I don’t like football, and I want to be an artist. Then, as you say, ‘God must have made me gay.’”

American culture created the script—that there are only two labels everyone gets slapped with, one is called “gay”, the other “good”, and most of the description for each label is filled with items not relating to sexual orientation in the least. Ironically, the “not gay” or “good” label seems most inclined to cultivate, then condemn, homosexuality in the following generation. Only in America is “football” defined by men wearing tights and shoulder pads, slapping each other on the butt, and hating “gay” people who wear athletic swimwear. A father who obsesses over such sports, doesn’t eat healthy, openly regards art as “silly”, and insults anyone who doesn’t do things his way, will cause the very thing he fears most. Such are the fathers of too many young, gay, Christian men in America. Life doesn’t fit into the labels culture made for it.

In any other nation on earth, a case could be made that homosexuality is a conscious choice that people might avoid to improve their own lives. That’s, basically, what the argument from Christianity SHOULD be. But when we equate a “dancer” to being “homosexual”… well, I’m not even sure what is actually meant when people say “homosexual” anymore. Dancers?? That included King David! But David couldn’t have been gay—he was a hunter and a soldier, after all. You can’t be both, according to the American script anyways. Once again, American culture either jumps on the bandwagon or torches it. And what has the Church done? They’ve played right along with the script: condemn homosexuality or condone it, but ONLY define it according to cultural superstition, never by the issue itself. Those are the only two options—right? How about: DON’T CAUSE IT IN THE FIRST PLACE! Perhaps, if  the Church didn’t agree with confused definitions, there wouldn’t be so much confusion among American Christians about the issues.

Love people. Appreciate art. Don’t make sports into a matter of sexual identity. Laugh. Cry. Open your heart. Find excuses to tell people they are “normal” rather than excuses to tell people they are “queer”. “Different” is “normal”, after all, because everyone is unique and special to God. Write the new script and don’t accept whatever nonsensical multiple choice options the culture hands you. We don’t like it when politicians apologize for a false accusation—so Christians shouldn’t either. Maybe, if the American Church didn’t personify homophobia so well, it wouldn’t birth so many homosexuals, and the “homophobe” label might not even stick. Christians are called to be the solution to hate. Are we?

The hope of this article is to provide a greater perspective for everyone. Parenting matters—which means that we can’t scorn our adult children without scorning ourselves at the same time—that’s what we say, at least. But do we actually believe it?

—May 26, 2012

2010:

It’s not fair to address homosexuality with a broad brush. Frat-boy lifestyle and lewd parades are an obvious blight on society. Those are very different from brilliant-creative people who have homosexuality as a lifestyle, not merely as a vulgar, in-your-face cause. We’re long over-due for an “American Christian Family Internal Discussion” about these matters…

Homosexuality makes me think of some of the most creative and talented gifts God has given to society and history. I think of people like Ian McKellan, George Takei, Elton John, Jennifer Knapp, and Ray Boltz… Michelangelo?

Creative, intellectual, and talented people who love the Lord and live a quiet homosexual lifestyle cannot be written-off merely as “immoral.” There is a connection that Justice demands we acknowledge. So I’m told, gay men are “looking for dad,” while lesbians want to “run away from abusive men.” Given that anecdotal wisdom, respect may be paid to both genders by focusing on the common thread: men.

All boys and men have a God-given urge to rip everything off and run around. Jocks don’t think about it, they just “do” and “don’t do” stuff. Introspective guys may over-analyze and misinterpret that urge as being “homosexual” if they have picked-up a message that they are not masculine. Perhaps if their creativity were validated by their fathers they wouldn’t make that misinterpretation. Testosterone expresses itself in different ways for different personalities and talents. Scratching and racing may be what some men find to be “manly,” for THEM, but the same tenacity can express itself in art. If jocular fathers mislabel “art” as “gay” then their artistic sons may just say, “Okay, I am who God made me.”

Many open-homosexuals start out wanting to be like straight guys. It’s true in most other cultures of the world. In France, if you wear board shorts to the pool they’ll give you dirty looks. In Taiwan, a “swimming suit” is streamline-athletic, a “beach suit” is casual-social (board shorts), and you can wear either one to the beach. But in America, if a guy laps the city pool dressed like Michael Phelps, people will gossip about his sexual orientation—though when men pile on top of each other in tights and shoulder pads it’s the “opposite of gay” because, “that’s football.”

Crud analysis of sexuality creates crud sexuality. Some men want to act rough and tough gruff, work in the shop, and watch football. But don’t ignore the artistic guys in the marching band. We need both. I like puffing my chest out and body slamming my friends, but because it’s fun, not because I think it is the comprehensive definition of masculinity. All balls and no brains… that’s something you turn into a steer… and that’s exactly what comes in the next generation from such a parenting philosophy.

Fathers who say, “Crying if for girls,” may make themselves wholly incapable of identifying with brilliant-analytical sons. Why might such a son grow up to be repulsed by a woman’s body? It’s as if his inner instincts are saying, “I don’t want to be like my dad—who doesn’t appreciate my artwork because he has color-blinded himself to my gifting, but I don’t know how to get out of this mess either. If this is how life is going to be for me then I want to end my legacy and not perpetuate the problem by having kids who will only turn-out worse than I did.” Even though a gay man may want children, the repulsion that a lifestyle homosexual man feels toward a woman’s body may be his pure-survival instincts trying to tell him something: He hasn’t been appreciated for who he is.

Hence grows a desire for penetrating activity in unusual places to get an injection and stimulation in hopes to provide for the lack of life and substance because a creative-analytical personality was never validated by a bravado-jesting father. What the inner-heart needs is not a massage, but to recognize one’s self as already being valid and grow strong. This is what Christ offers us if we’ll accept it.

It is likely that the bravado-father, who is likely compensating for his own lack of identity—and won’t admit it to himself—may actually have been looking up to his creative-brilliant son from the beginning. If that’s the case, lifestyle homosexuality may be the “best compromise” as son can find.

Many dads are beside themselves when their creative sons “come out.” This reveals ineptitude. Fathers should be equally distressed when young men start jesting in bravado at the expense of others. Insensitive fathers just might be a factor in raising homosexual sons. Are we right to condemn one and not the other?

Not all dads, probably not most dads, with creative-analytical sons living lifestyle homosexuality are bad fathers. Many fathers do the best with what they have. It’s an honest and understandable oversight of details, if dad eventually admits those details. Nobody’s perfect and a son doesn’t expect his dad to be—especially if the son is introspective-insightful. Reflective people can be the most forgiving, but that’s not the main issue. Such a son may want validation of the his detailed worldview.

But what has American Religion done? —Either validated the sorrow without healing it or blasted people with messages about morality… either way, ignoring the heart issues of both sons and fathers.

Lifestyle homosexuals often have a significant sense of honesty and openness. They don’t like to see problems ignored and they don’t like pat answers that mask symptoms and leave room for root-issues to grow. “REAL” men have intense, bold, gutsy, well thought-through, carefully-considered, skill-refined creativity… not merely bravado. Jocular and distant parenting yields no substance, is widely accepted by the Church, and promotes the very things Pharisees like to judge: single-parenting, crime, and homosexuality. Are non-Christians wrong for thinking that Christians only want to condemn people when the Church promotes the things that promote the things that it judges? The solution to porn addiction isn’t an accountability circle, but toning-down our obsession with romance as an end to itself and remembering that sex begins a FAMILY.

I’m coming to the conclusion that lifestyle homosexuality is the greatest distress-signal sent to society on behalf of society from some of the most honest and competent voices… and we need to give those voices our respect. Our first step to healing is helping that distress signal to be interpreted accurately by EVERYONE—distressors and distressed alike.

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